Three Keys to Build a Life Rhythm That Finally Works For You

Hey, what's up YouTube family? I wanted to come on really quick and let you know what you're about to watch. This was actually a master class that I did for people that are part of my ma uh uh marketplace communities. Um so I run a number of different communities um that I believe uh are a critical part of my calling like so part of my calling is expressed through ministry in the church and then part of my calling expressed through ministry in the marketplace.

And so there's personal professional development community called Daniels Den. There is something called premier certification academy where we train people to be transformational coaches and speakers and knowledge. There's uncommon calling um collective people that have been a part of courses we run like uncommon calling academy. And so basically there were some life strategies that I had taught in those programs uh when some of those programs first started that I kind of moved away from.

I wanted to circle back and kind of share with people in that community what we what I had learned, what I was changing um in order to help them, if they needed it, go through what I recently went through, and that was that's a life reset. But I figured, you know, people in those communities aren't the only people that probably need a reset.

And a reset doesn't mean you're doing something immoral. It doesn't always mean you're doing something unproductive. It just means you're unaligned. And that's what this is actually about. And so I want you to enjoy. I hope it has tremendous value to you. And if you got any questions about our community or if you any of those communities, Daniel's Den or um anything that you're going to hear me talk about, I think there's a link there's going to be a link here in the description.

You can just click that link and uh you can get more information. A lot of those communities aren't open, but uh I think there's a way to get on the wait list and if you're interested, anything like that, but I'm just concerned about you getting this content. I hope you're blessed by it.

Enjoy the video. What's up, good people? I hope you guys are doing absolutely amazing. And I want you to drop some fire in the chat if you've got great expectation about today. Uh I know I'm excited. I know I have a degree of anticipation in terms of the fruit that's going to come from our time together.

I I really want to get right to work. Honestly, uh I want to thank you for being here. I want to remind you of why I kind of invited you to be a part of this. If you are watching this, uh you are currently or have been a part of some of our programs.

And if that is the case, it's very likely that there are some life strategies that you've heard me teach that um hopefully have served you well. Hopefully, there are some life strategies that you heard me teach that have served you well. Um, but any individual that is committed to growth is going to experience a degree of evolution.

And um, I've experienced that. And I frankly want to use our time that we have together to kind of walk you through what I've walked through over the course of these past 90 days. Um, I I I really am um I I guess the word that that I would use to describe I really have a great conviction about sharing some of this with you because I feel like if there are some things that I've taught you in the past and then I've evolved and kind of moved in some sense even moved away from some of those things.

I feel like it's just responsible of me to circle back and to share, hey, uh I know in one season of our journey, I kind of taught this to you one way. I want to share with you where I am now. I want to make this preliminary comment and I'm going to get right to our time of teaching.

Everything I'm going to share tonight is descriptive. It is not prescriptive. What does this mean? It means I am describing how how and what I've how I am seeing this now and what I've walked through. I am not prescribing this for you. But um I I do hope there is some value in it.

And uh what I want to do is I want to share with you three keys to build a life rhythm that uh finally works for you. This is the the the reset master class. Um, so this all kind of started for me when I was taking my post Christmas pre-New Year's Eve break.

There's kind of a week or so in there that we get a a moment to breathe. And when I stepped into this year, I felt something that um I really hadn't felt this way in a long time. And uh the and the word I'm using quite frankly to to describe what I felt is the word frustrated.

That's what I felt. I didn't feel angry, right? I think there are degrees and dimensions of frustration. I didn't feel angry, but I did feel frustrated. And uh it was alarming to me because my frustration wasn't episodic. And this is what I meant uh what I mean by this.

Um the the dominant state of my soul, and when I say dominant, I mean over 50% of the time, the dominant state of my soul was a state of frustration. Does that make sense? So it doesn't mean every single day of my life um in December I was waking up frustrated or January we're going to frustrate.

It means that during that pre New Year's Eve post Christmas break I was doing some assessing as I always do of everything and I felt like the dominant condition of my soul was frustration and and look at me look at me please look at me look at me please.

You are doing how your soul's doing. However your soul is doing, that's how you're doing. If someone says, "Hey, where are you?" You are wherever your soul is. If your soul's up, you're up. Even if the finances are down, if the soul's up, you're up. Even if the career is not headed in the trajectory you desire, if you if your soul is up, you are up.

But if your soul is down, the bank account can be up. The the career trajectory can be up. But if your soul is down, you're going to be down. There's a greeting in scripture. There's a greeting in scripture. It's really a pleasantry and it's found in third John, but it does have implications for for what I'm articulating here.

Here's what it is. You you'll find these words, beloved. I think this is kind of King James King James version. I wish above all things that you prosper and be in health even as your even as your what? Soul prospers in proportion to how how your soul is prospering.

So that's a greeting. It's a pleasantry. Yet I think it it speaks to something that is a deep desire that all of us have, man. And that is a soul that prospers. And here's what I've learned, and I've taught some of you this. Feelings are the language of the soul.

It's the way the soul communicates and articulates. And when I say soul, I'm talking about this aspect of our existence that is our mind, will, emotions, imaginations, and affections. And so so so when when I when I say feelings are the language of the soul, it's the way the soul kind of communicates.

And um so what I do what I did because I I realize and recognize, okay, feelings are the way my soul is talking to me. Here's what I realized and recognize. This shouldn't be ignored. It should be explored. This shouldn't be ignored. It should be explored. And so that's what I did.

I explored it. Because a soul that's prospering is experiencing fulfillment. But a soul that isn't prospering is experiencing frustration. Watch this. And sometimes, I want you to catch this. Sometimes frustration isn't an indication necessarily that you came to the wrong place. Sometimes frustration is an indication that you've been at that place too long.

Because frustration produces a degree of agitation. And the agitation produces some motivation for you to do some exploration so you can change your location. In other words, God will use the feeling of frustration to create agitation to cause us to do some exploration. What's wrong? And we realize I didn't come to the wrong place.

This has served me well up to this point. But now what was the right place? When you stay in the right place too long, the right place can become the wrong place. What's that, Darus? How do you how do you back that biblically? Darius, Exodus, when Exodus came when when Israel initially came into Egypt, it is at Joseph's invitation, right?

Joseph is working in Pharaoh's cabinet. So, it's at Joseph's invitation. They are spared from a famine. So, there's a famine in the land. There's provision in Egypt. Joseph invites his family to come and be with him. And so, Egypt was initially a place of provision. But then, watch this.

Then after their season in that location was up, then what was previously a season of provision became a place of persecution. So were they wrong for going into Egypt? No. Did Egypt serve them well? Absolutely. Did Egypt protect them from some things? Yes. Did they prosper as Egypt prospered?

Absolutely. But sometimes the question isn't did I go to the wrong place? The question is, have I been in this place longer than I'm supposed to? So, I'm using Egypt geographically as a metaphor, not for where we are, like physically, states and cities, but for where we are in our soul.

And as I did some exploration, here's what was confusing for me, guys. I wasn't unproductive. I didn't feel unproductive. Am I making sense, guys? I didn't I felt unaligned. That's what I felt. And here's what I know to be true. No matter how productive you are, if your activity is unaligned with your authentic self or your assignment, you'll feel unfulfilled.

And when there's fruit coming from your life and when there's a degree and a dimension of blessing you're experiencing in your life when you feel frustration and when you feel unaligned you could easily wrestle with a degree and dimension of guilt. Right? I'm like man what is it that I'm feeling?

Is this a I know this is this I don't think this is unbridled ambition. thought I was unaligned. Schedule was busy but still feeling empty. If you've ever felt that a little bit, just put me too. Just put that in the chat. Me, too. I get it. I get it.

Veronica will say, "I just need to switch this off off my phone." I get it. I get it. So, I knew I needed a reset. Now, for those of you that are familiar with me recreationally, you know, one of the things that um that I enjoy recreationally, even to this day, is video games.

And uh I started playing video games. Um my dad got me something called an Atari. That was the first video game console I played. And then I was really balling. Uh, I don't even what the word is now. Balling sounds so 97. So I I don't I don't know what the word is now.

But listen, when I got a Nintendo, you couldn't tell me anything. And that Nintendo man had something called there was a power button and it was a reset button, right? And power buttoning is power button you typically turned it if if you're playing the game, you turn the you turn you press the power button to turn something off that you wanted to stay off. you even if it was temporarily, right?

You were done with the game when you turned it off. You you were done for that day. You were done for that season. I mean, for that, I know for for that period of time. But reset is like, no, no, no. I'm I'm not I'm not done. I need to simply restart.

And I knew I I needed a reset. And watch this. I I need reset. What? I need a life reset. And watch this. You don't reset your life by resetting your life. You reset your life by resetting your rhythms because your rhythms are actually what determines the course and the quality of your life.

James Clear, I'm I'm about to butcher this quote, but Clear says in Ato atomic habits, he says, "We don't rise to the level of our goals. We fall to the level of our systems." And we could say systems are like life rhythms. Uh, one of the things my coach taught me was sacred rhythms.

He says, "Darius, your rhythms are not sacred, but your rhythms are." Listen to this. He says, "Your rhythms protect what is sacred. Your rhythms aren't sacred, but your rhythms protect what is sacred." And when you see Jesus, you see these life rhythms, don't you? You see him engaging with people, withdrawing to replenish.

Engaging with people, withdrawing to replenish. You see these rhythms. You'll see him teaching people uh for a period of hours, feeding people spiritually and then feeding people physically by working a miracle, two fish and five loaves of bread. And then you'll see him dismissing the crowd and then sending the disciples on a boat and then him going and replenishing spiritually.

So you don't change your life. You don't reset your life by resetting your life. You reset your life by resetting your rhythms. So listen to me. Many people won't change their life because they won't excuse me. Many people can't change their life because they won't change their rhythms.

And everybody has rhythms. The question is whether the rhythms rhythms are by design or by default. But many people won't or can't change their life because they won't change their rhythms. And here's what I want us to see about rhythms. rhythms don't life rhythms, excuse me, serve you.

You don't serve them. Therefore, when they no longer serve you, it's time to change them. We're married to the what? We're not married to the way. Somebody put in the chat, it's time to break up. Now, I don't mean that with a boyfriend cuz some people or girlfriend, some people get super prophetic.

Oh, I'm not No, I'm not going to say that. They get they get sick. You know when you don't need much, you'll take anything, right? Oh, that's my sign. No, no. When I say break up, I'm talking about sometimes we are married to a way that is no longer working.

When we should date the way we should marry the what? We date the methods. We marry the mission. So I said it's so I was feeling that and so I said okay it's time to change them. So I want y'all to listen to me. I took the first I don't know I can't remember how long but it's probably about the first six weeks of the year probably six to eight weeks.

I think I took the first two months. I took the first two months and I used those months to walk through what I now see was a process to reset my rhythms. I I guess what I'm trying to say is I my frustration wasn't connected to not having things I wanted or accomplishments I wanted.

Remember, I didn't feel unproductive. I just felt unaligned. My frustration was connected to me not not having the life I wanted. I looked up and I said,"I no longer like this life." Now, if a person's fulfillment, and I don't know how it could how you could experience true fulfillment this way, is tied and tethered to influence or affluence or accomplishment, then I that may be different.

But because because those aren't the sole determinants of a soul that prospers, I'm like I like what I like who's in my life. I like some things that are happening through my life. I like some of the things that God's giving me in this life. I don't like my life.

And I'm not depressed. I'm not sad. But I'm frustrated. And guys, listen. I know that sounds like very that sounds very honest, doesn't it? It sounds very straightforward, but listen to me. You can only grow in proportion to the truth you're willing to face about yourself. I'm going to say that again.

You can only grow in proportion to the truth you're willing to face about yourself. And I had to be honest and say I'm not wrong. I'm not doing anything wrong. These rhythms have run their course. If this is resonating with you, just put it's over in the chat.

Just put that in in it's over. It don't mean you're wrong. It just means rhythms have run their course. And so for, and this is why I say this is descriptive, not prescriptive. Now, for those of you that are a part of Daniel's Den and UCCC, as soon as I finish this, I'm going to our team's going to put a Zoom link in for you and I'm going to go and I'm spend about a half an hour just kind of answering some questions for you to kind of give you some clarity on this because I am very much aware that the nature of control that I have over my schedule gives me a degree of privilege here.

And I think when you have privilege, you need to acknowledge that and describe like, hey, I had the liberty to say, I'm going to take kind of eight weeks and pull away from a lot of the day-to-day responsibility I had. I made sure my responsibility for the business was met.

And so, Daniel's Den, you guys know, I showed up and Ucc in in the uh PCA, you know, I showed up. I kept producing content. So, I made sure that things happened. But in terms of a lot of even meetings with my team on on the business side or on the church side, I I was almost out of that completely.

And uh that's just the reality that there was a season of my life where I didn't have control over my schedule where I could have done that. Like when I was teaching at Princeton for that semester, Princeton seminary for that semester because I had committed to th that class and those students, I couldn't have done that then.

So, so I want to I want to be honest that I I did have a degree of privilege, but that's this is why I want to and I'm about to wrap this up literally in like 10 minutes, but it's why I want to do this. I want to UC and I want to have this quick session with you to kind of answer questions in terms of what this might look like for you.

Because here here's the thing. I am taking what I've learned over those eight weeks that I pulled out and then these 30 days that I've been putting this into practice and I'm giving it to you so that you don't have to start where I start. So my prayer is my hope is it doesn't take you eight weeks.

It it shouldn't take you eight weeks because I've I'm literally about to show you the three keys um that I used to reset the three steps I went through to reset my life my life's rhythm. I'm about to share that with you and I've created something for you that that's a template.

So, I've taken what I'm about to teach and I've created a reset workbook that uh Daniel's Dan Uccc I think is going to be up in your portal. Um, we're going to get it to you. Um, I I just do my part. I got a great team that figure that other stuff out.

But the point that I'm making is it should not take you the go part of what a coaching and mentor should give you is speed. And if they don't give you speed, you don't have a good one. Somebody put speed in the chat. Yeah. A great coach and a great mentor should give you the gift of speed.

It means they're able to take what it took them 10 years to learn and they can condense it and they can explain something that it took them 10 years to learn to you in 10 minutes. That gave you speed. So, I walk through this process and I'm telling you guys, I am clearer than I've ever been and I'm more convicted about the way I'm supposed to steward my life uh than I have been in a long time.

And so, there's three simple steps that I followed to reset and I want to share them with you. And again, I'm going to describe my life. This is descriptive, not prescriptive. So, I'm sharing with you what happened with me. Okay. Um, I'm sharing with you what happened with me.

The first step was simply this. I had to reassess. Watch this, guys. Doing more of what's not working won't make what's not working work. doing more of what's not working won't make what's not working work. So I had to do some I had to do some assessment. Now this this is biblical right Haggi chapter one everything I teach guys in the marketplace and like even Daniel's day is for people who want personal professional development that's grooted that's that's rooted and grounded in the truth of scripture right it's like yo I want to grow I I don't want you cussing me out though like I I don't want you telling me things that don't align my value system so in in Haggi uh chapter 1 vers5 God says give careful thought to your ways you've planted much but harvested sit little.

You eat but never have enough. You drink but never have you full. You never have your fill. You put on clothes but you're not warm. You earn wages uh only to put them in a purse with holes in it. So he says verse 5, give careful thoughts to your ways.

Then he says it again in verse 7, give careful thought to your ways. So what he's addressing specifically in that passage is something a little bit different. He is addressing the issue of priority and Israel actually prioritizing him. But the way in which he is inviting them into that conversation is God is really orchestrating, arranging, encouraging them.

He's like you got to assess. He says the work not working. You planted much but you harvested little. Have you ever felt like the outcome doesn't match my effort? I'm putting in effort, but the outcome doesn't match. Big effort, little outcome. So God's like, stop, think, examine your ways.

So this is what I did. I asked myself three questions. First question was this. I asked myself, what am I doing in terms of my life rhythm that's actually working? And I think this is an important question for me because I'm wired to be a problem solver. So my my default disposition is to um is to immediately assess and try to address a problem.

But I needed to ask myself what was working because what was working need to needed to be anchored. It didn't need to be adjusted. Does that make sense? That need that needed to be repeated. It didn't need to be removed. So I knew there were some things that weren't working that needed to change, but the things that were working needed to stay the same.

Because sometimes in an attempt to change something, we change the wrong thing. So, really quick, I just want you to take a moment to reflect. You're not going to be able to do this. Like I said, I got a tool for you. You're not going to be able to do this.

You're not going to be able to do a deep dive in this, but I do want to prime your thinking in this way. So, I want you to now just kind of take a take a minute. Take a minute and just kind of put in the chat just really quick what's working for you right now.

It's like, you know, I'm taking walks and that is that is centering my soul. I am I've taken a different approach to my devotional time that is that is centering my soul. That that's working for me. Or I've set boundaries. That's that's working for me. What's working? I want to prime your mind to not allow the frustration to be the frame through which you look at everything to the degree that you that you miss and dismiss what's actually working.

What's what's actually working? Everything's not broken. Some things are bearing fruit. Some things are lifegiving. So, you don't need to abandon or uh yeah, you don't need to abandon. You may need to adjust if if we mean improve, but you don't need to abandon what is actually adding value.

Just kind of put that in the chat. So, that was the first question I asked. So it's like, okay, we're not going to remove that. If we do anything, we're going to improve that. Okay. Second question I asked myself was this. What is not working? What is not working?

This is where I had to had to ask myself what is actually producing frustration and not fruit or where is there watch this where is their effort being extended that's not matching my outcome where am I proverbally like sewing seed and not seeing harvest where is the work not working what is it that I've been tolerating that I need to eliminate Then I asked another question.

This third one, this was tough. What is not working because I'm not working it right? Meaning I can't really make an assessment on whether or not this is working because this is something that exists for me philosophically, but it doesn't exist practically. I'm not doing it. So, it's like some things aren't broken, they're just neglected.

So, like physically, there are some things that I'm working on and and I had to admit it was like, yeah, Daryus, you're just not doing you kind of not consistent with that cardio part. So, I can't say the regiment isn't working yet cuz I'm not working it. Now, it may not work the way I desire for it to work, but I can't come to a conclusion on whether or not it's actually working until I work it.

Those are three questions I kind of ask myself. And the things that I felt like were working, I'm keeping those. The things that aren't working, I'm removing those. The things that I don't know if they will work unless I work them, I kept those. That's step one, reassess.

Step two was is redesign. Okay, guys, I'm gonna need probably like 15 more minutes. Y'all good with that? 15. Promise. All right, redesign. This is really what prompted me to say, I got to get in front of my community with this. um if I have taught them anything, I got to circle back because once I reassessed, there are some things I needed to redesign.

Like once I took the honest audit, identified what was working, what wasn't working, uh what might not be working because I'm not working it. And then it's like, okay, now I got to I've got to I've got to redesign, right? So, so those things that are not working, how do I implement some architecture and infrastructure to redesign my life in a way where I got rhythms that that can support the season that I'm in.

Uh I said before, you live life by default or by design, but not both. So only the intentional advance and evolve and only the discipline are free. So, one of the things that I did is I created something. Many of you know, you've heard me talk about a rule of life, uh, which I'm about to talk to you about cuz I completely I've changed the way I approach that, which is why I needed to come back and tell you, hey, I've changed the way I approach that now.

I've talked to you about a personal calling statement. I've adjusted that. So, I had all of these and some of you in the den, I've talked to you about I am statements. So, I said, okay, I don't have a vivid vision description in one place for my life.

I got all of these little statements all over the place, but I got vivid vision descriptions for um the church. I got a vivid vision description for Daniel's den. I got a viv vision description for UC. Like and Habac, remember in Habca where it says write the vision, make it plain so that so that they that read it may run with it.

Of course, that was a word given to to that in that context corporately, but it's a communally, but it's a principle that applies even personally. So, it's like, okay, I can't run with a vision that I haven't written and made plain. So, I created this one document and this work book I created for you is going to help you walk through on how to create yours.

Well, all of this is kind of in one place. And so, now I don't really what you'll see here's I'm putting a card before the horse here. So, now when I feel frustration, I go I can go right back to this doc document and say, what's unaligned here?

Does does that make sense? So what is my sense of God's vision for my life on paper? I had to put it in one place. So I created a vision vision vivid vision description for me and I included something um it's kind of like these three um three pillars here and the first one is vision.

Who am I called to become? That was the first thing. Now, those of you that you've been with us in our programs, you know, one, even if you were part of like I3, the first thing we walked through was a personal calling statement. But it's but it's personal calling statement is about doing, not being.

So, I said, "Hey, this vision statement isn't about doing it. Let's get to becoming." So, remember, this is descriptive of me, not prescriptive for you. Here's what I put. My vision is to become a man who represents Jesus by living with his principles, his priorities, his pace, and his power.

What does this mean? It means if I look at my life and I'm like, uh, I don't think that area of my life is governed by his principles. Or I don't think this area of my life is reflective of his priorities. Or I may say, okay, my life in general of this area of my life is not reflective of his pace.

He was busy but not rushed. And I'm like, I'm feeling a little rushed. Like I notice I even walk fast. So when I catch myself not walking fast, I just slow down. You see Jesus walking everywhere in scripture, not running. And he got to more places and did more stuff in three years than we will in three lifetimes.

So what does this look like practically? It looks like these seven I am statements. In John's gospel, Jesus made seven I am statements. And they weren't just theological claims. They were the anchor of his identity. They were the architecture of his assignment. And so if you read John's gospel, you'll see seven things that Jesus said about himself.

So I said, "Okay, I'm going to learn from him." If he had seven I am statements. Let me create my seven I am statements. And and some of you you're you're not unfamiliar with these. Um I'm just going to run through them um really quickly and I'm going to show you where I had to make some adjustments.

All right. So one like one of mine is I am God's man. I belong to him. I live life his way. I serve who he sends me to. Um, and I live for an audience of one and I strive to please an audience of one. The second was, uh, I'm a family anchor.

I'm a loving, attentive, present husband. I'm a present father who provides wise counsel and a safe place for my sons. And I'm a godfather to those who need fatherly guidance and support. Um, I felt pretty good alignment there. Number three is where I was like, yo, I'm off here.

I'm off. I was like, I'm off. I'm a Solomon in my generation. Now, some of you that have gone through uncommon calling, you know, we said, hey, you you need biblical you need to find a biblical avatar besides Jesus. Jesus is who you want to be like personally.

But in terms of some you're not you're you're not this person, but you see some of yourself reflected in this person. So, I'm not saying I'm as wise as Solomon, but I'm saying the way Solomon carry out carried out his life and legacy in scripture is is is the individual that I resonate with.

And so, it is I'm not just a proclaimer of biblical truth. Like Solomon, I use the truth of scripture to help people develop a biblical philosophy of life. I am not just a Bible teacher. I'm a bridgeuer who helps people apply the Bible to everyday life because I believe if you're not deep, excuse me, I believe if you can't do it, you're not deep.

So when I looked at this, I was like, "Yo, this is on paper and I feel like I'm leaning into this in the church." But part of the reason I'm probably unfulfilled is because I'm not leaning into this in the way I used to in the marketplace. See, because whoever you are as an avatar is going to show up wherever you are.

So I saw I was unaligned there. And when I saw that lack of alignment, here's what happened. I want you to catch this. Honesty becomes a womb that gives birth to innovation. And so when I saw that gap, that honesty like that that that gap and I was honest, I was like, "Oh, okay.

Now this becomes a wound to give birth to innovation." And I said, "You know what I'mma do? I'mma start something in the marketplace that bridges that gap. Now, y'all please don't start asking me a lot of specific questions about this cuz this is not I don't know when I'm going to roll this out, okay?

Like, I don't have any specific answers cuz I know I know how people get. I don't have any specific answers. I'm being very vulnerable and very transparent. I'm showing you how this stuff shows up in my life. But like, don't ask me for a link. I don't have a link.

I don't have a site. I I I don't I don't have anything. Okay, I'm just But a vision. That's what I got. I got a vision. And guys, when I start dreaming, I started getting fulfilled and excited. And I hadn't even launched this yet. I said, if I take the truth of scripture and I help people apply that to real to to real everyday life, and there's a there's a way that I'm doing that in the church.

But part of like kind of what I see in culture is like in Christian culture, it causes me to cringe. I got a unique agitation. I'm like, these people are very passionate, but they're just not informed. So, so I'm I'm going to be rolling out something. Don't ask me for a link.

I don't have a link. I don't know when. I don't know where. I just know it's going to happen sometime in the future. But I'm rolling out something, guys, I'm creating called Real Life Seminary. Some of y'all remember Bible U. This is like that on like steroids. Well, I'm gonna help, let me just give you this part.

I'm gonna help everyday believers understand scripture more accurately, navigate complex ethical issues more confidently, defend their faith more effectively, and impact people more deeply without the time, without the without the tuition or or the traditional pathway of seminary. I've been to seminaries. I've taught at seminaries. But seminaries prepare people for the pullpit.

I'm trying to prepare people for real life. I'm tired of Christians going online like trying to having a heart to defend the faith with love, but they don't have the information to do it. I'm I'm I'm Anyway, here's the point. The honesty made room for the innovation. Does that make sense, guys?

All right. So, the I am statements. I'm I'm I'm a spiritual father. Um I raised a spiritual family to change church to maturity so they can model third way living. I lead, I feed, I intercede, I innovate, I raise, I protect so that we can help as many people as possible live, love, and lead like Jesus and change the world.

I'm a rain maker. I use the insight, education, and ability God's given me to create products and programs that bring great value to others, to create great wealth that allows me to be a kingdom philanthropist who is the answer to the tangible needs of those in my family, in the community, in the world.

And we do a lot of that like you would probably many like I'm I'm not I'm not going to get in that. I think Jesus is very clear. Don't let the left hand know what your right hand is doing. It doesn't mean don't be seen giving, but it means don't give to be seen.

But it is like there are kids in different parts of the country right now that are in college and we're able to support them. Like they're going to college debtree. They're going to college not having to worry about what we had to worry about. Not just because of like what we might do through programming in the church, but what I what my family and I are able to do because we said, "No, let's take the gifts God's given us and let's use those gifts to serve other people, create other streams of incomes, and now it's put us in a position where there's a need.

When there's a need, I don't have to go and ask somebody else to help me meet the need. we can just meet the need. Um, I got him a picture of possibility. That's another one of my things. Um, and I'm a kingmaker. I expose people to their inner greatness and equip them to reach their highest potential and properly steward great influence.

Using basketball terms, you guys have heard me say this, guys. I'm not Kobe Bryant. I'm not Michael Jordan. I'm Phil Jackson. I'm not trying to be the great. I coach. I mentor the greats. So if I'm not doing that, that means I'm not being my authentic self. So I'm unaligned.

That's going to bring me frustration. Sharice, when we get through, you won't need Bible. You won't need Bible U with Real Life Seminary. It's Real Life Seminary will be Bible U times 100. It'll be everything you got in. It's Bible U and Everyday Seminary came together and and and had twins.

It's it's going to be incredible. But I not only addressed that my 10 minutes up, I addressed my I had to shift my personal calling statement. Now, most of you in this room should be familiar what that is. Here's the change I made. My life's calling is to help as many hungry and humb humble people as possible change their lives by leading transformational churches, uh creating and communicating transformational content, uh and doing transformational coaching.

So remember, the vision statement is who I'm called to become. The personal calling statement is what I'm called to do. Y'all got me? Now, if you've been any of the programs, you've seen this a million times. I want to know who sees what's different. I'm gonna tell you what's different.

It used to say, "My life's calling is to help as many people as possible change their lives by blah blah blah." Now it says, "My calling is to help as many hungry and humble people." You see the difference? Cuz I see part of my frustration was not clarifying my metron in terms of the character traits.

See, I had a metron that was clarified in terms of people's aspirations and desires and problems, right? What do they aspire to be? Who do they aspire to be? What do they aspire to accomplish? What are the problems they're trying to solve? But within that, I had to get a little deeper and say, I feel like I'm working with my metron, but I'm still a little frustrated here.

What's contributing to that? If if a person's not hungry and if a person's not humble, then what I do won't be able to help them. It's hard to teach somebody anything who thinks they know everything and I just don't have the energy. Is that too honest for y'all?

It's like I'm not about to argue with you to help you. If you knew the answer to the question, why did you ask me? So I literally had to be honest enough and say, "No, Darius, your gifting, your calling, your anointing, your temperament, your oil, your experience is for hungry and humble."

God, that that set me free. Do I look freer to you? I feel freer. All right, here's one other area in the PCS where um I didn't feel aligned. Leading transformational churches, I'm doing that. Creating and communicating transformational content, I'm doing that. doing transformational coaching. That's where I saw this is another reason you're frustrated.

Uh guys, I haven't taken I've rejected every executive coaching client over the past two years. I have not taken one executive coaching client in two years. When we launched Atlanta, it beca the church in Atlanta became so consuming. I laid down my mastermind I3 because that was consuming on the business side and I didn't take one executive coaching client.

So the only coaching I was doing was the little bit of coaching I was doing inside certain tiers in like a Daniel st. See but when you're watch this there'll be a lack of fulfillment when you're unaligned with your authentic self. That's the vision statement the I am.

And when you're unaligned with your authentic assignment, this is part of my assignment. So when that is cut off, there's going to be a part of my fulfillment that's cut off because it is a contribution God's called me to make. Now, I'm not I have no intentions of going back.

I have no intentions of taking any more executive coaching clients right now. So don't don't ask me for a link. I don't have a link. I don't have a site. That's not what this is about. Okay? But I want to show you a change that I'm making. I'm about to I'm currently working on I don't know what version this is.

It's going to be like version 13.0, but I am currently working on the Daniel's Den is my coaching and mentoring community. And I saw as it relates to my involvement, we got great coaches in there, but I when I first started it, it was so fulfilling because I was doing a lot of coaching in there.

Now it's only like a couple of times, I think, with like a couple of tears or whatever. And I saw that it kind of morphed into like a content hub as opposed to a coaching and mentoring community. And information alone does not transform you. Josh Khan trans helped transform my life because coaching is the only transformational expression of leadership.

And so this up this like this up this thing I'm about that I've already written a vivid vision description. My team's working on it. If you in the den the level we're about to take this to OM to the G. Number one shares we were in a meeting.

We were in one one of our coaching calls and you said something about like relational intelligence. Number one, I'm making the pillars in the den. This is in the future. Don't ask me when. I don't know when. I don't have a link. I don't have a link. We don't have a site.

But I'm going back to making the content pillars around spiritual, emotional, relational, and leadership intelligence. Those are the content pillars. Cuz here's what I'm finding. I'm talking about all this communication stuff. I'm putting all this stuff in there. But if we are not constantly spiritual intelligence, it means that you recognize that God is the ultimate expression not just of integrity, but also in also intelligence.

Right? Even the word logos kind of speaks to divine reasoning and rationale. God is Dallas Willer says one of the most under assigned traits to Jesus is the fact that Jesus is actually was actually smart. He is wisdom. And so when we say spiritual intelligence, it means that I live my life having access to a degree of intelligence that supersedes my own.

Are y'all hearing what I'm saying? That God doesn't just make me more saved, he makes me smarter. So, it's like, no, I want to stay with spiritual intelligence and then emotional intelligence because emotional intelligence isn't just awareness and mastery of your own emotions. It is awareness and navigations of other people's emotions.

So, here's what I'm finding right now. My struggle isn't necessarily managing me emotionally. My struggle is trying to navigate the emotions I'm dealing with with other people. And then this relational intelligence personally and professionally and religiously. I'm like, yo, this leadership intelligence I you can have a life plan.

You remember I said, what stuff are you work? What stuff is not working? You don't know it's not working because you're not working it. That that's all about self leadership because we can have this plan and it's we can have a plan and we not we're not working if we can't lead ourselves.

So, I said, "I'm going to redo those pillars around that." And then I had a conversation with my wife. I said, "You and I, we have to get back to coaching in the den." I know they got weekly lunch and learns with the other coaches. And our our coaches are great, but you and I have to get back to coaching everybody in there, not just certain tiers.

Everybody. So, we're gonna take what you call lunch and learns and that new name for I'm just going to give you all this. I don't have a link. Don't ask me when because I don't know. I don't know. Um, but we that's going to be called the grow room.

And then I'll be in there one week. Coach Shemica will be in there one week. Then I'll be back in there one week. And depending on the subject matter, I might assign someone who's an expert in there that week. And so those you in marketplace mandate and all that, we're still going to do those things.

This is not taken away from that. This is in addition to that. Why? Because I was unaligned. So do y'all hear what I'm saying? Here's what I want you to say. I wasn't too busy. I was too busy with the wrong stuff. And then there's this thing that I'm going to do.

I don't know when I'm going to do this, but guys, I'm calling it the Dominion Mastermind and I'm going to take 35 people. Like, I did a mastermind before. It's just too many people. You can't do a deep dive with people when it's too many people. And um I'm gonna take 35 people and it's a one-year mastermind.

I'm only going to open it up once a year. It's going to be the highest tier in the den. And I'm going to take 35 people who are committed to ma and I'm calling it the dominion mastermind because they want dominion not just in a part of their life but every area of their life.

A lot of my previous masterminds were like about building the business and I I'm not anti that. I'm just not on that. What I'm on right now is building the people that's building the business. This for the high achiever who's winning publicly. You winning, but you refuse to fail privately.

Some people don't care. They don't care if the bank account the bank account is up but they piece is down. They don't care. They don't care if everything is up and to the right except for their relationships. We just believe you can reach your goals without destroying your soul.

That we can we can build a great business and have a great life, a great marriage. So it's like I want 35 people who want that. And I'm like mapping out like a syllabus and it's a year cohort with me. And when people me and PS and when people want to get in it, they got to wait until the next year.

Why? Because now I'm able to do what really matters to me and what I'm called to do. And that's how people experience some authentic transformation. I'm way over my time. But I I want you to I told you this is descriptive, not prescriptive. I don't have a link.

I don't have a website. I I don't have anything. I'm just sharing with you what I've kind of discovered here. Then I also guys created this purpose manifesto. So the vision statement is who I'm called to become. PCS is what I'm called to do. The purpose manifesto, what is my why?

Cuz sometimes it gets hard. And I needed my why on paper. Does that make sense? I needed my why on paper. And if you take nothing else from this, I want you to do this part. Let me read you my purpose manifesto. I believe God's ultimate purpose for the believer according to Romans 8:29 is a a word called somorphice.

And that's that's a Greek word found in Romans uh 8:29, which is which speaks of being conformed to the image of his son. Jesus is not just our savior, he's our standard. He's the most complete expression of what a human was designed to be. I reject the reductionist view that sanctification is simply managing our sin.

I believe it is also maximizing ourselves. Sanctification is not behavior modification. It's human optimization that is inspired and empowered by Christ. It is being formed into Christlikkeness who is not just a moral man. He was a maximized one. Everything it did it did in three years. And this is why I do what I do.

Because every person that I reach carries untapped potential that the world needs. Because I believe people are capable of more than morality in Christ. They are capable of more in Christ because I know the pain of living beneath your potential. And I refuse to let that be someone else's permanent me permanent address.

I will not quit when it's hard. I will not shrink when it's costly. I will not settle when it's comfortable. I will keep working. I will not settle when it's I will not settle when it's comfortable. I will keep working even when things feel like they aren't working because there's somebody somewhere that is where I used to be and desperately needs what I currently have.

This is my way. This is my work and this will be my witness. Let me give you this last one. I'm way over time as always. What else is new? So, I got the vision statement, who I'm called to become. I got the PCS, which is what I'm called to do.

I got the purpose manifesto, which is my why, and then I got the rule of life, which is how I sustain it. And so, long story short, guys, I just simplified my rule of life. The rule of life was too complex for me. I couldn't remember all the stuff that I had on there to do.

So, I just said, you know what? I'm going to organize my rule of life around two things that every human want. Peace and productivity. Come on. The peace of God and productivity. Fruitfulness. So I organized a rule of life before my rule of life is kind of organized around you know a very vague general outcome like loving union with God something along those lines I adopted that language which which is interesting I think if you adopt language you still need to own it and I think that is an appropriate use of rule of a rule of life or a trellis but for me is when there is loving union with God what is the outcome of that now that in and of itself is a worthy goal but what is The outcome of that it is a soul that prospers and it is a life that is fruitful.

So I describe that as peace and productivity. And so okay I just divided that into three areas. My relationship with God because everything starts here. So I put things in place like what what am I going to do? What are like what are the practices I'm going to do to make sure that that relationship with God is strong? my relationship with myself and that speaks to me tending to me emotionally and physically.

What am I going to do to make sure that I'm good there? And then my relationship with others. This is my marriage, my family, and my friendships. That was it. That was it. And I feel like I it's it just makes sense. It's like, okay, if I just do these things, I'm going to be good in my relationship with God.

If I do these things, I'm going to be good in terms of the way I'm handling myself emotionally and physically. And if I do these things, I'm good with wifey. I'm good with kids. And I'm good with the other people in my life that mean the most to me.

Guys, that's that's it. So, my next um key, the final key was is to realign. And that is you just got to do it. You just got to do it. It's one thing to reassess. It's another thing to redesign. I think you just do it. It's what James says.

Like I got the information. J when James says, "Don't just be hearers of the word of so deceive yourself. Do what it says." It's got the information. You just got to engage in application. So, here's what I want to leave with you. Fulfillment is not just the fruit of more activity.

Fulfillment is the fruit of aligned activity. You can be the most productive person in every room you walk into and still go home empty if what you're doing isn't aligned with who you're called to be and what you're called to do in this season. So, this reset in like a one-time event, it's a heart posture.

And it's a willingness to stop long enough to be honest, to audit where you are before you try to accelerate, to take the time to design before you execute. Because God didn't create you by accident and he didn't call you to live by default. I refuse to and I hope you feel the same.

Family, that's all I got for you. I just wanted to share my heart. Um, I think I don't know how we're going to do this, but I think our team's going to drop a link for those of you that in Daniel's Den and Uccc. I'm going to spend some some time.

I've actually I was supposed to be done completely by now. 30 minutes teaching and then 30 minutes with the coaching session. But I just want to answer some questions for you guys. And guys, here's what we put together. This was a lot of work for me to put this together.

I want to make sure y'all take advantage of it. It's called a reset workbook. and everything that I told you I designed. What I'm what the workbook is is it steps to help you design yours. So, I'm asking you questions that are like prompts to help you create your own vision statement.

I'm asking you questions that are prompts to help you create your own personal calling statement. Uh I mean your vision statement, your IM statements, your personal calling statements, um your purpose manifesto, your rule of life. Um and you you pick and choose which parts of this you feel like apply to you.

This is descriptive for me. My life's complicated. It might not take all of that for you. At minimum, at minimum, you need a PCS and you need a rule of life. Um, so we're going to make that available to you as a way to serve you. I just felt like if I taught you something before and I made some adjustments, I just wanted to share it with you.

Okay. Thank y'all for being a part of this, man. I love you. And um yeah, I'll see you on the other side. Take care.