Confessions

Good morning everybody. This is the day the Lord hath made and we will rejoice and we will be exceedingly glad in it because God is good and he is worthy to be praised. He is worthy to be praised. Happy Friday everybody. Welcome to the grace gang. And um we got something serious to talk about today.

Um and I just had this one scripture that hit my heart. I'm looking up while I'm welcoming you here. But we're going to talk about how to recover from being hurt. And um you might want to get some people on the phone, text them. Uh if you know people who've been hurt, if you've been hurt, uh I'm going to talk to you about how to how to really recover from it.

I'm going I'm going to put you on my couch today and we're going to show you how to recover from it because I'm meeting a lot of people who uh who've been hurt and we talk about it in general. I I've even talked about it in general, but I thought as far as the grace gang is concerned, you know, I just always feel like I need to go to the extra and kind of give you guys some things um to really help you to uh you know, be people that can walk strong and according to to the uh unto the word of God.

And so, we're going to look at that today. I'm looking for this this uh scripture today that I think would would really bless you today. Um and uh anyway, who's in the house today? Why why I look for this scripture? Uh let us know who you are. We want to send blessings your way.

And um I just think God is is just so good and so awesome. Uh I found the scripture. Uh, let me go ahead and mark it cuz I want to use it in something the Lord said to me this morning uh that I think will really really be a blessing to your life.

So, bam, I found it. So, anyway, you have my undivided attention again. Like I was saying, happy Friday and um we welcome you. So, those of you from I see Denver, Colorado, New York City is in the house. Baltimore and Orlando is in the house this morning. Welcome to the Grace Gang.

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I'd like to just kind of see where where everybody is. What are they what are they doing? I mean, I I I know for a fact. I mean, one of my spiritual sons said he was on the airplane um listening to the the the the the grace gang and and I've had people, you know, at the jobs.

I've had people um listening to it in the car on the way from her work. And um welcome to the Grace Gang. I I just I appreciate you guys. I I I pray you're growing. If if you're not growing and learning and being encouraged, then I need to be replaced with somebody else because that's the the the purpose is so we can show you Jesus and that uh encourage your life and bring you to the point of realizing that Jesus is your everything.

So, whatever you're looking for, um you know, somebody says they're working out right now watching the Grace Gang. That's that's awesome. Somebody's working remotely at home watching the Great G. Somebody brushing their teeth watching the Grace Gang. Oh man, I'm telling you, I see a lot of at work.

Y'all been y'all better make sure now y'all be blaming it on me now. Um, welcome to the Grace Gang this morning. And uh I'm just, you know, I'm just praise God delivering my mail. Uh, praise God. Somebody's stretching out. Somebody cooking dinner right now. Glory to God. Hallelujah, man.

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And this is this is pretty awesome. Um so God bless you guys. And uh yeah, it's Friday and I'm I'm so excited about what I have to share. I I I really feel anytime I find some things that can, you know, help you because it's helped me and you know, things that I've gone through, somebody would think, well, Pastor Dollar, you ain't know I've been hurt before.

Yeah, I've had to recover from hurt a lot. And um I'm telling you in the name of Jesus, I don't know how many of you have experienced uh just a crushing hurt in your heart, you know, and and most of the time that can only come from somebody that you love or or something and you you um you you still kind of carry it a little bit.

I want to I want to help you to kind of get rid of it because you got too much to do in your life to be held back by a crushing hurt that has just not not been resolved. And we need to go ahead and resolve that today.

And uh I hope you join me and and believe God for your ears to be anointed to hear. And uh let's uh let's let's let's do this thing. Let's go ahead and get uh Psalms 91 equipped. And uh we are religious about Psalms 91 equip. So let's do that.

Repeat after me. I will dwell in the shelter of the most high God. I will find rest in the shadow of the almighty. God is my refuge and my fortress. You are my God in whom I trust and with great confidence in whom I will rely. God will rescue me from every trap and protect me from every disease.

I am covered and protected by his outstretch arms. God's faithful promises are my armor and my protection. I will not be afraid of the terrors of the night, nor of the arrows that fly in the day. I will not dread any disease that stalks in the darkness, nor any disaster that strikes at midday.

Because God is my refuge and the Almighty God of my home, no evil can befall me and no plague can come near my dwelling. God has ordered his angels to guard, defend, and protect me in my house. God's armies of heaven will keep me from falling. I will walk unharmed and kick anything that is evil from my path.

Because of God's love for me, I will call upon him. He will set me above all my troubles. He will deliver me from all my fears. And he will honor me with his presence and power. I declare that he will reward me with long long life and he will show me his salvation in Jesus name.

I declare that we are Psalms 91 equipped in the mighty name of Jesus. Now, let's jump into this right quick. I I want to make sure you get this for the weekend, but um what do you do to support uh your heal a healing process where you're being healed from from hurt, broken heart, a crushing hurt, and it's still you still got a residue of something on that.

All right, let's get right to it. Uh, this is going to sound a little strange, but here's the first step. I really believed it. It helped me a lot. You got to do something. Um, here's what we call it. You got to honor your pain. You got to honor your pain.

See, avoidance of pain will increase the pain. And I've I've learned this. Avoiding the pain will increase the pain. So in to in order for you to heal, you got to pass through the doorway of grief. I mean, you feel like, you know, you you lost something. Uh or uh I read this in a a book that said that grief is just love that doesn't have anywhere to go.

See, emotional wounds are are are beyond sadness. I mean, sadness is a part of that hurt, but emotional wounds are are beyond sadness. Um, they're felt in in a in in the in the depths of your being. And um it's something that happens when you just simply honor your pain.

Don't run from it, right? Don't run from it. Uh face it. uh you know unplug, put time aside to reflect and and in a sense kind of permit yourself to to maybe go through something that you lost or you know you just you just you have to deal with it is what I'm saying.

And every time I I kind of honored my pain and instead of ignoring my pain and I just began to deal with it and uh say, "Okay, well, let me give you an illustration. Uh something happened to me. It really hurt me." And I was going on my walk and uh the Lord asked me, well, he didn't ask me.

He says, "You he says, "You're hurt, aren't you?" And and I and I'm like, "All right." I'm getting ready to respond to to to someone who knows everything about me. He knows the the answer before I even give it. And I said, "Yeah." I said, "Yes, I am."

And I felt like a a heaviness just left me because I I admitted it. And I came in the house and I said, "Taby told her what happened." And she said, "Good. It hurt me, too." And there's just something about it's it's like locating yourself. Before you can move forward from it, you need to locate yourself and be be honest with yourself that hurt.

Okay, here's the second thing. Uh just just mark this down. Number two, reach out. Reach out. Reach out to people. In other words, when you're when you're recovering from hurt, um being alone is part of the process, but when you extend that time and um you extend that period of isolation, that's not going to be healthy.

So it is part of the process to be alone. But an extended period like that, an extended period of isolation, it it it can it can serve to be unhealthy because listen, deep pain always brings out um personal issues, personal demons. Deep pain brings out stuff like you start blaming yourself.

Deep pain, you start beating yourself up. you start you start embracing victimhood, you know, because um you know, you're there by yourself and you're not reaching out. Um and these choices, the only thing they're going to do is it's going to breed something I call enttrapment. And that's the therapist side that's coming out of me.

But it'll breed entrapment instead of freedom. And you you won't find yourself in freedom. So what I'm saying is when I say reach out um reach out um to friends, find you a support group. Um find something I mean uh in fact I used to run uh an emotion anonymous group and there was it it was it was designed in a in a 12step type of program.

I know some people don't get in that but some people really need help to to overcome some stuff and you have to reach out. And so, yeah, I I understand there are times that I spent time, you know, alone, u dealing with it, you know, u uh recognizing it, honoring my pain, but at the same time, it's like, okay, now I need to I need to reach out.

I need to go and and and um get some help. I need to I need to go and and and talk to somebody. Uh, I need to go see a therapist to help me work out of this cuz this thing is is is going to cause me to to uh embark upon upon a um a path of of blaming myself, beating myself up, and and that's not doing any good at all.

So, that's number two, reach out. Number three, uh real simple, take a break. Uh take a break. taking a break from your pain and engaging in some healthy um compartmentalization. Um I think that's important. Everyone, in other words, everyone finds different ways to deal with uh their pain, but uh some people can find some creative activities to deal with them. writing, music, reading, movies, take a break.

Take a break, man. And and and that's important. It's important for you to know how to take a break. Uh sometimes movement, you know, people go jogging, they go for a walk. These are very practical things, right? Um, all of those things will will aid in taking a break from the pain.

Like if you're dealing with pain right now, put something in your schedule today that equals I'm taking a break. Take a break from the pain. And then number four, I think to me this is the most important one. I used to pray the prayer, Lord, don't let me go through something and leave the wisdom behind.

All right. But um learn from it. Number four. So you're going through something, learn from it. What what are you going to learn from that pain? I mean that's why it's it's so easy to play the blame game. But when you're hurt, I just want to what what do I need to learn from this?

Okay. Do I need to build better boundaries? Do I need to keep my mouth closed? Do I do I need to face uh approval addiction and trying to get validation? Am I exploiting myself? Um what part did I pay uh did I play? What part did I play in in in the hurt that I'm experiencing right now?

Um you know, grace gang, sometimes I like to talk to y'all from the real side. And not to say that the scriptures are not the real side because I can find scriptures to go along with everything I'm saying right now. But uh sometimes it's just like talk to you straight up, bro.

I mean, hit it so you can have it and and you know um just, you know, take them and and give you something practical to work on. Sometimes we lack in practicality. We hear uh the very powerful promises of God, but sometimes people lack in practicality. And and I want to make sure that you get that.

But what what are you learning from the hurt? uh what's the wisdom that you got out of the situation that you've gone through? And I tell you that equals growth. That equals growth. I if you can look at the hurt and then you decide I'm going to I'm going to I'm going to I'm going to operate in love no matter what.

I'm going operate in love no matter what. Uh I'm going to choose to forgive you. You know, you literally have to set your will to forgive. You don't wait until somebody offends you to forgive them. You you you you set your will at the very beginning of the day.

I set my will to forgive. So whatever happens, my will is already set to forgive. And um so yeah, man, this is this is something. So I'm I'm going to believe God because I know I have in in every pain that I've had to work through. I can also give you a list of the the things that uh that have caused me to grow from from that pain.

And and here's the neat thing about it. When you don't leave your wisdom behind, uh the next time a situation like that comes up, you're smarter. Um you handle it better. It doesn't affect you like it used to, like it would have affected you before. Why? Because you didn't leave the wisdom behind.

Okay. All right. Number five. Let me give you one more. We're doing good on time. Here's here's something very important. Number five. Keep it moving. Keep it moving, man. Move on. It's you know, you you you need to move on from that place. It's time to move on.

You've talked about it enough. Um it's time it's time to go forward now. All right. And um some people allow suffering to define them. Some people allow suffering to shape them. And ultimately some people allow suffering to rob them of living. And that's the worst part. You cannot allow the hurt to rob you of your living.

So occupied with it. You cannot allow the hurt and the pain to rob you of living. You got to move on now. How long have you been dealing with this? How long have you been stuck in this place? It you need to move on. Today's the day you're going to move on.

Today is the day where you're not going to allow the pain, the hurt, and the suffering to define you. You don't give it that power to define you. You move on. And um you know you'll find out that uh if you'll just move on then you know emotionally you you you're sleeping and now you're doing other things and the next thing you know the pain is gone and you have deposited the wisdom that and the things you learned from from the pain.

So um yeah don't don't don't allow to um consume you and that's what a lot of times people do. So, I want you to take that I want you to take what I'm saying today. Um, and I want you to apply it. I think that these five steps were very um practical and you can take these five steps and and and walk in it.

And um just make your mind up. You know what pain or or or hurt, I don't think I'm going to let you u talk to me today. And I don't think I'm going to let you define me today. and I don't think I'm going to allow you to make me feel bad today.

And uh you just keep it moving, man. And uh everything's going to be all right in in your life. And uh so I'm excited. And here's the last scripture I want to uh share with you today in in First Peter. This was I was looking at verse 10.

And there's something how we can hurt ourselves. Verse 10 says, "For he that will love life," how many you love life? I love life. He that will love life and see good days. How many you want to see good days? I do. So he tells you what you have what you have to do.

Let him refrain his tongue from evil and his lips that speak no let his lips speak no no G. So he's telling me that long life and seeing good days is going to be based on what happens with this tongue. Wow. What happens with this tongue? In the amplified he says, "For let him who wants to enjoy life and see good days, good whether apparent or not, keep his tongue free from evil and his lips from speaking gal, his lips from speaking deceit."

Now, if your lips are speaking deceit and um if your lips are speaking uh evil, okay, and it's slandering and all that kind of stuff, it's going to affect it's going to affect the long life and and and and see good days. It's pretty simple. He says, "Do keep your mouth off out of places that don't belong."

Um we we we we really spend a lot of time taking people apart with our mouth. and taking their lives apart with our mouth. Uh hearing some slander and repeating it with our mouth. And every time I think about that, I think about what the scripture says. Uh you want to enjoy life, you want to live long, watch this.

Put a watch over this. Put a watch over this. I know the gossip is juicy and oh you want to tell your opinion and oh you want to give your political side of stuff. Watch this. Cuz I want to I want to see good days and I want to live a long life.

And I ain't got time to be putting my mouth on somebody every time you look around. Uh they might act a certain way and it might be true, but I want to live a a good life, a long life, and I want to see I want to see good days.

He says, "Watch your tongue. Watch your tongue." And and my heart goes out to people that make a living by slandering people. uh just so they can get uh get a bag so they can get money and and and they're being moved by mammon to do what's evil.

And what they don't know is most of the time you hurt your own life with your tongue. You're hurting yourself. You're hurting yourself. Please understand that you don't want to operate in strife because strife is nothing but a dam that stops the flow of the blessings that comes your way.

And you don't want to do that. And sometimes we build dams with our tongue. And you don't want to be somebody that's still stuck in strife. All right? As a result of the hurt, I don't like you no more. As a result of the hurt, I'm in strife.

And and part of that strife is now I'm going to tear you apart uh and slander you because you hurt me. Don't do it. Watch this tongue. You want to live long good life. You want to see good days. Don't let the hurt begin to program your tongue to tear down your life that you could have.

All right. So yeah, sometimes it's just good to get the anointing a shut up. It's just good to get the anointing or shut up, man. It's like, bro, I can't I can't say, you know, don't give me the line, you know, and just just leave it alone. But you're going to find in these last days there's just there's an increase of just slander.

Like people don't have nothing else to do but to take somebody else's life uh apart. And it's just it's just something you see everywhere. And we got to pray because the next thing you see is you see those lives of the slanderers. Uh you see those lies just being torn apart.

And I I tell you one thing, I I've seen people who who have podcasts and talk shows and you just keep watching them. The end is the same thing. The end always turns out the same. It's like I've seen this movie and I know how it ends and people won't pay attention to that.

You you you you can't keep laying that trail out and don't think it's going to eventually turn back around with you. You can't keep walking in strife and and don't think that's going to come back where you are concerned. It it just it's like wow. You just don't realize that.

Well, I'm 20 and I don't believe what you're saying. Well, keep living to 30 and you you'll see that your tongue has become a part of the hurtful things that you're experiencing in your life because you know what you do to hurt and tear somebody else down, you're just sewing seeds for the same thing to come back to you.

And that's the thing that hurt will do. It'll it'll program and motivate you to use your tongue to snap back at somebody else. Wow. And then when you find yourself at this place, it's like you did it to yourself. Don't even say the devil. You did it to yourself.

But I want you to have a desire to live a long prosperous life and to see good good days. And I said, "Man, listen. I'm getting older. I gota I I got to make sure that this thing is doing what it's supposed to do. I ain't got time to be, you know, waking up one day and and and I'm and there are consequences of my mouth because you hurt me.

So now I'm going to make sure I just tear your character up and and uh slander you and take you apart and lie to you, lie lie about you. I ain't doing that. And yet the internet is filled with that kind of stuff. And you know, if you would tag some of these people and just follow their lives, this scripture is so true.

It is so true. So speak well of people. Speak blessings and not cursings. Pray for your enemies. Do those things and enjoy life. Why why people dogging you out? you enjoying life and seeing good days. You're enjoying life and seeing good days. So, get over the hurt. You see, this is all attached to, you know, um how important it is to recover from being hurt.

And what I'm saying is if you don't recover from being hurt, then the consequence may be found in your tongue and you end up losing something that um you know comes back on you. All right. Um, yeah. Praise God. Well, I I I hope this uh helped you.

Um, I hope it helps for your weekend. Uh, just remind yourself we don't do strife. The grace don't The grace gang, we don't do strife. Uh-uh. We don't do no strife. Um, but we will we will just, you know, we will just walk in love whenever there's an opportunity.

And when I when I say walk in love, when there's an opportunity, sometimes the opportunity for love shows up when you're hurt. It shows up when you're hurt. And the opportunity to be the bigger person shows up when you're hurt. So, be sensitive to what God wants to do.

Listen, if you are needing some help and some prayer in this area, I want to invite you to to to contact our our people in our prayer center. Uh we're open from like now to noon. And so all you have to do is text prayer center to 51555 or if you're on StreamYard, you can scan the QR code to contact the prayer center and somebody will pray with you and and um and uh agree with you in Jesus name.

Uh hey guys, I'm excited about this weekend. I'm excited about your life. I'm excited about your growth in the Lord Jesus Christ. And guess what else I'm excited about? I'm excited about sending the gospel of Jesus Christ to the whole world. The revolution has begun. We going to take over the whole world with the help of the Lord Jesus Christ to make sure that everybody in every language around the world hears this wonderful too good to be true news about the gospel of Jesus Christ.

Tell a friend. Let God lead you to somebody. man is about to rock and roll in the grace game. And I'm telling you in Jesus' name, all is well with you and your house.